Making New Friends

Making New Friends

 by: Skye Thomas

How do we make friends? More importantly if dropped into a new city or a new job or a new school, how do we go about making a new friends? Most of us dont really think about it, but just sort of allow people to float in and out of our lives without really paying any attention to how we pull new people into our lives.

Years ago, my son was four years old and starting preschool. He had been begging to go for about a year and was thrilled that he was finally there. He had longed to play on their playground. He really loved all of the noise and commotion of such a large day care center. He was fascinated by the sight of all those other children running around laughing and playing. He was so excited to dive in and start hanging out with those other kids. He was naturally outgoing and energetic, and had wonderful social skills so I knew hed get along just fine. I was a bit surprised when he came up to me after a few weeks and said that he was really struggling because as the new kid he didnt have any friends.

How do I get some friends to play with me?

I told him that every week I would give him a new assignment. I explained to him that you dont want to run through these steps too fast because it makes people nervous and theyll push you away. You want to give them time to adjust to you as you go through these steps.

For the first week all he had to do was smile a nice big smile and say, Hi! He needed to walk around saying hi to teachers and students alike. Whoever seemed cool in his opinion. He didnt have to be a geek about it and say hi to everyone, just those he thought seemed kind of interesting. This gives people the impression that youre an upbeat positive person, but not too pushy. Greet them everyday with a smile on your face.

For the second week, he had to start adding their names to the cheerful greeting. When you see someone you like, smile real big and say Hi Joey! or Hi Suzy! or Hi Anthony! Just start learning their names and adding it to your hellos. This way theyre already used to your pleasant greetings and it just personalizes it a bit. Greet them with a personalized greeting everyday.

For the third week, I told him to give them an honest compliment along with the greeting. Dont make it something big and embarrassing, but something small and comfortable for them to hear you say out loud in front of others. Hi Joey! I love your Ninja Turtle T-shirt! or Hi Suzy! I really like the way you color within the lines, looks great! or Hi Anthony! Nice haircut dude! The key to this step is honesty. You have to find something you truly like about the person to compliment. People get an odd feeling and on some level can sense when others are being fake or insincere with them. Be honest, be upbeat, and personalize the greeting and the compliment. Again, do it every day. Consistency really matters. Youre not just making them feel good about themselves, but creating a public image of yourself as a consistently upbeat positive person.

For the fourth week, I was going to have him include an invitation to play with him in with his greetings, but he never got that far. He was having such a good time with all of his new friends that he never really bothered with any more lessons. He was very popular and well loved from that point on.

Every time hes changed schools or neighborhoods or started going to a new church or gone away to camp or whatever, he has always used that same system to make new friends. Its foolproof and always works for him. Hes just started high school this year and is incredibly confident in his ability to make new friends. Now, he simply walks up to strangers, flashes them his best grin, in a charming and almost clown like manner he greets them with a big hug, and will tell them he loves them before he even introduces himself. He just hams it up like a beloved comedian and delivers whatever silly greeting will make kids laugh. Its beautiful to watch him. There isnt a shy bone in that kids body!

Can we as adults do the same thing? I know that if I really look at my own behaviors, the times that friends have seemed a bit scarce were when I wasnt doing a lot of reaching out and greeting them. If I wasnt personalizing my conversations towards them and I wasnt handing out the compliments, then new people didnt seem to stick around and develop into friendships. Most people are a lot more insecure and shy then they let on, and they really feel good when someone else notices them enough to learn their name and to greet them with a real compliment. It usually makes them feel comfortable enough to respond and to begin opening up.

Its a really simple exercise consistently greet them, personalize the greeting, and then add a compliment to the greeting, if you arent friends by then, offer an invitation along with the greeting. People love to feel likeable. This system lets them know that you think theyre likeable without making you feel like an uncomfortable nerd. Its slow enough paced to not be forced, unnatural, or pushy. We humans have funny little behavioral rules and rituals that we follow instinctively and red warning flags pop up when someone doesnt approach us just right. Deep down, I think were still just as skittish and easily spooked away as the first cavemen. Give them time to check you out. Its amazing how beautifully this works.

Copyright 2003, Skye Thomas, Tomorrows Edge

About The Author Skye Thomas began writing books and articles with an everyday practical approach to spirituality, motivation, and inspiration in 1999 after twenty years of studying spirituality, metaphysics, motivation, and parenting. More of her articles can be found at www.tomorrowsedge.net as well as free previews of her books. skye@tomorrowsedge.net

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Why You Should Choose A Short Haircut

Have you noticed that women with a short haircut look intelligent? Especially if they wear those small black-rimmed glasses halfway down their nose. Ever seen them? They look like brain boxes.

A study called ?First Impressions Hair impressions? found that we do judge people on how they look. When you see long flowing locks what do you think about the woman with those locks?

For years it has been that women have found it very difficult to maintain luxurious hair, long or short. Let?s consider a few tips about a woman with a short haircut.

? There are natural oils in the scalp. These oils seep into the hair and lubricate it. Thus giving the hair a natural sheen. Short hair benefits from this action because it?s closer to the scalp. It?s easier for long hair to become dry and split because it is farther away from the beneficial oils of the scalp.

? Whenever you wash your hair, intensify your wash and shampoo near your scalp. The bulk of your natural oils abides there and builds up there.

? If you have long hair concentrate your conditioner on your hair that is farthest from your scalp. It provides protection and helps replace oils.

? If you blow dry your hair, keep the blow dryer at least six inches from your hair. It will prevent excessive damage from the heat. Blow dry your hair in the direction of the shaft down the full length of your hair. Doing that will create a smoother appearance.

Your hair will have a shine and a thicker feel when you remove dried and split ends. If you trim your hair every 6 to 8 weeks you?ll give your hair a reasonable chance to eventually look its best.

Follow these simple, sensible steps to maintain healthy hair. You?ll be pleasantly surprised how your hair responds to this type of consistent treatment.

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Hot Trends in Women’s Wigs and Headwear, Plus Other Current Hair Fashions

Need a Quick Fix?

In today’s world of hustle and bustle, it is hard to keep up with the ever-changing fashion and social trends. When it comes to hair and headwear trends, everyone wants to look their best. The challenge is looking your best without the fuss. One growing trend among women who have to look great in a snap is the use of wigs. With a wide variety of women’s wigs to choose from it is possible to create any style you wish.

Is A Wig for Me?

There are several reasons in which women’s wigs are a growing headwear fashion. A lot of women choose wigs when they want to change their hair color but do not want to risk damaging their natural hair. Some use wigs to cover up a bad haircut.

A more common reason in which women’s wigs are used is because of hair loss problems. Whether it’s from chemo treatments, medical conditions, or trauma, a wig will help to ease the embarrassment. There are literally thousands of wigs to choose from, ranging in various lengths from short to long. The color options are unlimited, and style is a matter of design. You may choose from a selection of pre-cut styles or have one designed to suit your personal preferences.

Other Headwear Accessories

Maybe a wig just isn’t for you. In addition to women’s wigs, there are many other popular women’s headwear trends. Hats, turbans, scarves, caps, hair extensions, falls, add-ons, hair enhancers, ponytails, and ponytail wraps are all popular among the modern fashion crowd.

Women’s Caps

For the active women out there who prefer not to use women’s wigs, a common style is to pull your hair up into a ponytail and put on a cap. From the traditional baseball caps to designer caps – with such a wide assortment in headwear, you can keep your hair under control and look your best at just about any casual event.

Women’s Hats

Hats have been a popular style for centuries. It doesn’t matter if you need a winter hat or a summer hat, the choices are unlimited. A hat is sure to jazz up any outfit for church gatherings or social events. One great thing about a hat is it works great with women’s wigs or natural hair.

Women’s Scarves and Turbans

Scarves aren’t made just to wrap around your neck anymore. Today it is very popular to use scarves as headwear to accessorize your hair. Whether you spiff up a ponytail or completely cover your head, scarves are a beautiful way to accent an outfit or hide the fact that you didn’t have time to fix your hair or go to a salon!

Women’s wigs can be accented with the use of scarves as well. Or, you may choose to use a turban. Women’s turbans are available in several gorgeous materials and colors. Why are turbans a popular choice? They are simple yet beautiful.

So, the next time you’re feeling bored with your hair-do, why not change things a little and add a wig, scarf or turban to your hair accessories? Then you can achieve the look you want without harming your natural hair.

Chris Robertson is an author of Majon International, one of the worlds MOST popular internet marketing companies on the web. Learn more about Women’s Wigs and Headwear or Majon’s Health and Beauty directory.

Short Hair Styles For Summer

So you have short hair. What the heck are you going to do with it this summer? Wouldn’t it be nice if your hair cooperated for you this summer? Here are some useful tips to help you start your summer off right with the right hairstyle.

First, it’s always a good idea to get a haircut, even if it’s just a trim. Get rid of those dead ends before summer starts. You’ll feel better about yourself and you’ll look stunning.

If you have short straight hair you can texturize the front of it just by adding some volumizer and teasing. You can then pull it back off your forehead and secure it with a nice hair accessory. If you have bangs you can pin them to one side but you may have to add some gel to help hold it in place. If you wanna flirt, try applying some gel and letting your bangs fall in pieces over your forehead.

You can also try a short ponytail. They are very sporty and sexy. Make sure you use a covered elastic or some kind of clip. You can also use baby clips to hold your hair up on the sides for a cute look.

If you really want to spice it up, I suggest getting some highlights. This will look killer if it is layered or messy. You should also go for a varity of colors when getting highlights. two or three shades of the same color can make all the difference in the world.Blending in these colors will make your hair brighter and it will also make your roots less noticable.

No matter what you decide to do, Make sure you take care of your hair this summer. Don’t wait till the day before you hit the beach to get the look you desire. If you need good quick ideas, it’s always a good idea to search for pictures on the Internet. You can print them out and take them to your hair stylist. She should be able to create the style you are looking for. Keep it simple, don’t ask your styling to create miracles. You know your own hair better than anyone but being bold and being smart are two different things.

I always tell people to try new ideas that are within the realm of possibility. Don’t go crazy because you may end up mad at yourself and your hair stylist. Kepp it simple and you will have one sexy summer!

About the Author

Lorraine Blenn is a freelance writer. If you would like more free information and tips for all the latest hair styles check out this website at http://www.linkbrander.com/go/13655

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Safe Hair Loss Treatment – Herbal Hair Remedies
There is a wide range of remedial options which claim to offer permanent cure to hair loss. Herbal remedies are the best treatment options available though. There are two advantages with herbal hair loss treatment, first it is cost effective and secondly it doesn’t give way to side effects that you may experience with other hair loss treatments.

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How to Help Your Body Develop Anti-aging Defenses
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Anti Aging Skin Treatment: Collagen and Peptides
There are important factors to consider, if you want a successful anti aging skin care treatment. Unhealthy life style like smoking and overindulging or the simple passage of time lead to wrinkles and damaged skin.

Seven Things You Can Do NOW to Look Well-Groomed Without Spending a Dime!

Fashion magazines target people every day with lists and charts telling them the latest trends and techniques to look better, skinnier, smarter, where to buy the hippest clothes or the latest shoes! If youre a woman, you are probably bombarded more often than you like, and if youre a man, you may not get the information that you really want to know! Due to the glut of information available, most people know the obvious things to do to look elegant or well groomed, such as getting a good haircut or wearing certain brand name clothes. However, this may lead people to overlook some simple, basic things that can be done RIGHT NOW to add that subtle flair and polish to your everyday look!

Renu Dalal-Jain, a certified image consultant and the owner of Flair Consulting in Philadelphia, PA, works with men and women to help them put their best personal face forward in social or corporate settings. She maintains that there are seven essential things any man or women can do, and often overlook, to help them present a well-groomed, neat, and elegant appearance to the world! And all this without spending a dime!

1)Keep your skin and lips well conditioned. Ashy knees, flaky skin and chapped lips do not look nice, and will make your skin look old and tired. This is especially important in colder weather. If you wear lipstick, it is imperative that you keep your lips moist, because chapped lips are even more apparent under color. Keep lip balm in your car and your bedside table and apply it whenever you get in the car and before going to bed at night.
2)Make sure your nails are well shaped and all a similar length. Nothing says you dont care like ragged nails or nails that are different lengths! (Ladies, I know you worked hard to grow those nails but just because only one broke, you shouldnt think nobody would notice!) If you polish your nails, keep your everyday color one shade brighter than your skin-tone. This looks professional and clean and makes your hands look elegant, especially if you wear rings. If you like brighter colors make sure you repair chipped polish right away! Chips in bright polish are extremely noticeable and make you look sloppy.
3)Make sure your clothes and accessories are in a similar color family dont wear shades of beige or brown clothing with black shoes or a white belt. As a rule of thumb, make sure your belt, shoes, and watchstrap are in the same color family. Sometimes a strikingly different purse or shoes can make a statement, but it has to be well planned. The article in question must be of good quality and in good condition, since you want people to notice it.
4)Your socks or hose must match either your shoes or your pants. Do not EVER wear blue socks with brown shoes, or black socks with sneakers! If you are wearing sling-back or open-back shoes, make sure your socks or hose are the color of your shoes or nude-colored. If you are wearing sandals, do NOT wear hose unless it is patterned (think fishnets) and deliberately worn to make a trendy statement.
5)Wear the highest length socks you can (at least mid to high calf-length). NOBODY wants to see shiny shins peeking out when you sit down!
6)Polish your shoes and clean your sneakers! The number one thing people forget to do when going out is to check their shoes for scuffs or dirt. Polished shoes show that you care about your appearance. The most expensive shoes in the world will look horrible if they are dirty or scuffed!
7)Keep your wallet or purse organized all the time. Nothing makes you look disorganized like an overstuffed wallet hanging on for dear life in your back pocket, or a purse bursting at the seams! Make yourself a system to keep the business cards, credit cards or receipts you dont need all the time, in your briefcase or at home.

And a bonus: an understated use of scent (aftershave, cologne or perfume) shows that you take an extra step with your grooming and can have a positive effect not only on your own mood but on those around you. According to the Social Issues Research Center in Oxford, UK, subtle fragrances can have dramatic effects in improving your mood and sense of well-being. In addition, in experiments, subjects exposed to pleasant fragrances tend to give higher attractiveness ratings to people in photographs. The regular use of pleasant fragrances helps to reduce mood disturbances in men and women.

Renu Dalal-Jain, a certified image consultant and the owner of Flair Consulting in Philadelphia, PA, works with men and women to help them put their best personal face forward in social or corporate settings. She maintains that there are seven essential things any man or women can do, and often overlook, to help them present a well-groomed, neat, and elegant appearance to the world! And all this without spending a dime!

1)Keep your skin and lips well conditioned. Ashy knees, flaky skin and chapped lips do not look nice, and will make your skin look old and tired. This is especially important in colder weather. If you wear lipstick, it is imperative that you keep your lips moist, because chapped lips are even more apparent under color. Keep lip balm in your car and your bedside table and apply it whenever you get in the car and before going to bed at night.
2)Make sure your nails are well shaped and all a similar length. Nothing says you dont care like ragged nails or nails that are different lengths! (Ladies, I know you worked hard to grow those nails but just because only one broke, you shouldnt think nobody would notice!) If you polish your nails, keep your everyday color one shade brighter than your skin-tone. This looks professional and clean and makes your hands look elegant, especially if you wear rings. If you like brighter colors make sure you repair chipped polish right away! Chips in bright polish are extremely noticeable and make you look sloppy.
3)Make sure your clothes and accessories are in a similar color family dont wear shades of beige or brown clothing with black shoes or a white belt. As a rule of thumb, make sure your belt, shoes, and watchstrap are in the same color family. Sometimes a strikingly different purse or shoes can make a statement, but it has to be well planned. The article in question must be of good quality and in good condition, since you want people to notice it.
4)Your socks or hose must match either your shoes or your pants. Do not EVER wear blue socks with brown shoes, or black socks with sneakers! If you are wearing sling-back or open-back shoes, make sure your socks or hose are the color of your shoes or nude-colored. If you are wearing sandals, do NOT wear hose unless it is patterned (think fishnets) and deliberately worn to make a trendy statement.
5)Wear the highest length socks you can (at least mid to high calf-length). NOBODY wants to see shiny shins peeking out when you sit down!
6)Polish your shoes and clean your sneakers! The number one thing people forget to do when going out is to check their shoes for scuffs or dirt. Polished shoes show that you care about your appearance. The most expensive shoes in the world will look horrible if they are dirty or scuffed!
7)Keep your wallet or purse organized all the time. Nothing makes you look disorganized like an overstuffed wallet hanging on for dear life in your back pocket, or a purse bursting at the seams! Make yourself a system to keep the business cards, credit cards or receipts you dont need all the time, in your briefcase or at home.

And a bonus: an understated use of scent (aftershave, cologne or perfume) shows that you take an extra step with your grooming and can have a positive effect not only on your own mood but on those around you. According to the Social Issues Research Center in Oxford, UK, subtle fragrances can have dramatic effects in improving your mood and sense of well-being. In addition, in experiments, subjects exposed to pleasant fragrances tend to give higher attractiveness ratings to people in photographs. The regular use of pleasant fragrances helps to reduce mood disturbances in men and women.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Renu Dalal-Jain, a certified image consultant and the owner of Flair Consulting in Philadelphia, PA, works with men and women to help them put their best personal face forward in social or corporate settings.
Copyright 2004 Renu Dalal-Jain, MS, CIC
Flair Consulting~Philadelphia, PA
http://www.flairconsulting.com

Man sought in Largo bank heist

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Police looking for girls who rode in sex offender’s car 
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Jennifer Aniston and All Her Many Popular Hairstyles

Jennifer Aniston the much loved actress has had many great hairstyles. Jennifer Aniston?s best known role was on the TV show ?Friends?, as the fun loving character Rachel. Rachel was cute, sexy, lovable, and actually quite dingy. She was a character that reached out to the hearts of many of us for many seasons. Her hairstyles have been some of the most popular of all time.

Each year Jennifer Aniston fans would wait with great anticipation for the fall season of ?Friends? to begin. What great new hairstyle would Jennifer have to share with all of her fans. Would she have a long or short hairstyle, wavy or straight hairstyle? Whatever hairstyle Jennifer had, it was sure to be a hit. Women from all over would head to the hair salon with a picture of that favorite Jennifer Aniston haircut.

The famous ?Rachel cut? was an all time favorite. This hairstyle was a huge trendsetter. This cut framed the face and was shorter at the crown and longer around her face. This cut gave her height on the top of her head while still giving her the look of longer hair. The bottom of her hair was shag cut with a razor.

Jennifer with long hair would sometimes have big romantic curls. These were created by blow drying with a big round brush and then using a big curling iron to make lots of big soft curls and then softly brushed to blend.

One of Jennifer Aniston?s great fun looks is just a bunch of tousled waves. This is a great look for her with long hair. This look is easily achieved by blow drying with a round brush and then once hair is dry, take random sections of hair and wrap it around the outside of a curling iron. Then gently brush through using a vent brush to achieve tousled waves all over.

Jennifer Aniston?s favorite trademark look has to be her sleek and shiny sedu hairstyle. For her, this hairstyle is just glassy straight and parted off center. She has fine hair, ( and a lot of it) and it straightens easily by blow drying with a round brush.

Short hair is rarely seen on Jennifer Aniston. This is apparently not one of her favorite hairstyles although she looks great in it just like all the others. Short hair for her was shoulder length, straight, all one length, and cut into a bob.

Good luck finding your perfect Jennifer Aniston hairstyle.

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